Crushed

Having a crush can be fun. Having a crush can be miserable. They make you feel good about yourself. And then they make you feel miserable. First you are confident. Then you are questioning yourself. They make you shiver with excitement. Then they make you cry out of disappointment. Ugh. Why even bother? How can having a crush on someone make you feel so many emotions?

You finally find someone you are actually attracted to which is relief. He's cute. He's funny. He's a nice dresser. He has a nice, athletic body. He has a good job. And he seems normal. So why is he still single? Probably the same reason you are. Is it a coincidence that no one has realized how awesome either one of us is yet? Maybe we are perfect for each other! Or...maybe he's just as picky as you? Or he has a severe flaw you haven't uncovered yet.

When you guys first meet there is definitely an initial attraction and there are some mini sparks flying. There is the good eye contact. The slight touching on the arm. It's exciting. You guys decide to make a plan to go out again for drinks. You are beyond excited. How many days until you see him again? What are you going to wear? Should we kiss on the first date if it goes well? The night finally arrives and you guys have a great time drinking and talking. There are no awkward pauses. There is a lot of smiling and laughing. You didn't want to the night to end. You agree a great time was had by all and def want to see each other again.  Man, this crush thing is pretty exciting. You are all girly and giddy and its actually kind of fun. But what's the next move? Do you call/text him or wait for him to initiate contact? This is where the whole having-a-crush sucks. You don't want to wait. You want to find out when you will hang out next. And then when you don't hear anything for a day or so, you start to get bummed. Out goes girly and giddy and in comes rejected and sad. Maybe he didn't have as good a time as you did? Maybe you read his signals wrong? How could you be that stupid? Why are you questioning yourself so damn much? This isn't fun anymore. This crush is driving you crazy. Three days go by and finally, he calls and asks you if you want to grab drinks again. Phew. Now you are happy again. This whole up, down, up, down feeling of having this crush really isn't fun. Why can't it be easier?

I think that when you have a crush on someone there is always that potential that it could lead to something more serious if its mutual and things go as well in person as they do in your head. But if your crush doesn't reciprocate, it can be kind of upsetting and can deter you for going for someone else. It's hard not to get your hopes up when you meet someone you actually really like, because it happens so sporadically (at least for me). But just take a chance and if its right, there will be no ups and downs and no questions. Things will just fall into place. And who knows, maybe that crush will turn into your boyfriend or husband.