Man Up Dude

So here the story goes. A girl has been texting with a guy. They go out once or twice and have a great time. She really likes him and thinks that he also really likes her. They text a bit some more and she asks if he wants to hang out again. He says yes. But then she hears NOTHING. Nada. Is this normal behavior from the guy? Unfortunately it is. And happens more often than one would think.

Why would a guy say yes to going out with this girl again if he has no intention to? If he's not interested in her why wouldn't he say he is busy with work? Or has other plans? Or, here's an idea: Just tell the girl that you aren't interested in seeing her again. She is a an adult. She can handle it. Really, she can. So dude, man up and just tell the girl you don't think you are compatible and it won't work. Trust me.

You know that book that was then made into a movie called He's Just Not That Into You? Well, that happens. A lot. Sometimes a guy just isn't into you. And sometimes (more often than not), you aren't interested in him. And you know what? That's okay. Its actually pretty common and pretty normal. You know what's not normal? A guy not being honest about it and leading a girl on because he's either too immature or too big of a pussy to tell her otherwise. If you don't want to see her again, just tell her. Or hey, even just ignore her in the first place. (Like before you agree to see her again.) She will get it. (Or she will ask you again and you will ignore her again.) But don't agree to go out again and not mean it. It's just not nice. And she is going to get the wrong idea.

As adults in the dating scene that is New York City, many people just don't have time for mind games. We are too old and too busy for that. If you like someone and want to see them again, tell them. They will most likely feel the same and be relieved you put it on the table.  If you aren't interested in them, just tell them that also. It's pretty simple.  It's actually clear as day. Honesty is always the best policy. It leaves no questions unanswered. Its leaves no "what ifs". By being honest, she knows that there aren't going to be any more dates between the two of you. And once again, its fine. Why would she want to go out with someone that isn't into her? She doesn't. So dudes, my final advice to you, if you have no intentions of seeing a girl again, just man up and be honest with her. She will appreciate it. And she will leave you be.